Had an interesting conversation with an old childhood friend whom I had not seen in quite a length of time as he was out of the country completing his studies & applying for PR abroad as well. He was actually back on leave to plan for his wedding to his longtime sweetheart, and while we chatted, the topic of life partners came up as well…
Apples on a Tree
Like many things in life, we have many choices – including looking for your partner or soulmate to share life with. The saying goes that there are many fish in the sea, flowers in the garden & apples on a tree. So how does one know who is the right person for you & me? Some believe in soulmates – the one & only. While the more pragmatic ones say that the DNA of life allows for many more permutations of people we can be with who fit us glove to hand. Still as most wiser ones would tell you – do take your time to see the world & see more people before making a conscious choice of your life partner.
Unlike the gung-ho anything goes “Hey Partner!” in western serials, choosing a life partner is anything but. What does a partner mean to us? Is it someone to share our life’s trials & tribulations, joys & sorrows with? How does one make a choice of who is going to be the significant person in our lives? Do we make a list with all the criteria we look for? How do we know how much or how little we can accept of someone’s cute flaws that may possibly loom ominous once the proverbial yoke is placed on our back (the wedding ring in other words). Do we & should we at some point settle for less?
Forever & Ever
The union of man & woman is supposed to be for eternal bound. Yet what is the sanctity of marriage in today’s world? Does not tying the knot formally mean that a couple is any less together? And even for those who do get married formally, isn’t ending apart in divorce merely a few (stacks) of paper (and counseling) away? Does staying together & knowing each others flaws prove to strengthen the relationship, or is it merely an excuse to get together for wild raunchy pre-marital sex? How long is forever?
In-Laws & Miscellaneous
By my books, the person I end up with would be the person most important in my life, and I would expect vice-versa. But many of us have many other priorities in life – be it our parents, family, god-mother, career, wealth or friends that we place in much higher priority. Is it possible for things to work out if both have different priorities, despite the said willingness to compromise? How about the factor of mother-in-laws
Growing Old Together
Yet with all that said and all the cold water sloshing around, life partners remain a blessing indeed. To have someone to love, to cherish & to share our life with is one of the best gifts in life itself. To grow old, wrinkled & out of shape, yet share many many wonderful things together – why maybe we’ve found our heaven on earth after all.