This post is dedicated to all the silent visitors to this blog & to Pauline my business partner at Lรถveire Patisserie whereby we hold honesty as a very important key of doing business. Keep it up girl! ๐Ÿ˜‰


Resolutions & Goals
To be honest, resolutions were never a big thing. Not that one found difficulty keeping them, but they often seemed a bit forced & only there since we were headed into a new year. However, goals are something we held as a dream to realize. Something set that we aimed for in the short, medium or long term. Something that we reviewed often & benchmarked ourselves against.

Candor & Honesty
Candor & honesty is neither really a resolution or a goal. It’s hard to describe, but probably the closest thing would best as a viewpoint or approach to life itself. In the extreme, enough of living in a sugar-coated world where we smile at each other but hold daggers behind our backs. Enough of pretending that everything is going nice & well even when he/she is deplorably bad.

Why honesty?
Honesty brings about change. How can we know what to improve ourselves on if we don’t know the truth? How can we make the right decisions when the only picture we see is a pretty painted picture? How can we trust each other if honesty is not a reality?

The Change
Change is never easy, and often painful. Changing to be more honest or to to be a person with candor definitely falls into both. Expect people to resent you as your nice mild-mannered self becomes this perceived monster with a dagger for a tongue. Yet it is better that we tell someone if he/she sucks now, rather than he/she finding out when it’s way too late & turns into a bitter old person.

Balance even in Honesty
Yet as in almost everything, balance once comes again in the picture. Honesty needs to tempered by wisdom & timing. Honesty fails if the other party is not listening – simply walk away. Honesty fails in anger – as anger clouds the mine. It isn’t about being selectively honest, it’s about having a principle – a principle that brings about true success.

How important is honesty in our life?


11 thoughts on “Honesty

  1. Answer
    Very important.

    Honesty is..
    * simply let your YES be YES & your NO be NO.
    * don’t cheat or help others cheat.
    * keeping your promises.
    * don’t lie.
    * admitting when you’ve done something wrong.

  2. honesty is the best policy. be it bad or super bad or super duper naughty ones ๐Ÿ˜› hahaha

    important if the guy is honest to me but not important for me to be honest to the guy.. wahaha

    well.. to me honesty goes hand in hand with trust.. ๐Ÿ˜€ if you earn my trust i’d be honest with you if not.. you wont get either ๐Ÿ˜€

  3. Ooh. Honesty. I always think of myself as a compassionate person–until I encounter a lie. Then it’s off with the liar’s head and whatever else is out there. Honesty is everything, I believe.

    Thanks for a thought-provoking post. Happy New Year!

  4. Absolutely! In today’s world sadly, we have forgetten to be honest TO & WITHIN ourselves..dats where it starts, no? So, lets start within, and the rest shall follow ;p
    p/s: your finest entry thus far!

  5. This post is actually very timely for me. Yes, honesty is very important, and key to all good relationships. This is something I am currently working on with my daughter. Thank you, I needed to read these words right now. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. @kat: ooo. super duper naughty honesty?! ;o)
    hmm. so in that case do you actually measure or see whether u or the guy is being honest first?

    @sandycarlson: very alice-in-wonderland ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy new year there! I doubt many would dare to be dishonest to you more than once ๐Ÿ˜‰

    @mirrorme: true words indeed that often the best reflection is mirrored within ourselves. really? thanks for the compliment =)

    @sue: glad that timing was good for this post. i had actually written a draft on a slightly similar post on honesty in specific to email & online communication but i think this one’s more true & possibly better =)

  7. Being honest means never having to figure out what you told one person versus what you told another.

    When I was younger, I was too blunt, thinking this was honesty. Now, I realize I can be honest without being brutal.

    I clicked over to your new blog. I had to shut the page, quick. I think I gained a pound just looking at the treats.

    All the best to you in 2008.

  8. @cybercelt: honesty versus bluntness is a very good lesson as well. and yeah it does make life easier as you dont have to watch for the story you weave ๐Ÿ˜›
    thanks for checking out loveire.com! =)

    @kat: tests… swt. maybe i should write how much guys hate that it the latest post which is just up

    @nicola: *ponders a moment on honesty, trust & respect* – Yes, it really is (about) all that.

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