This post is dedicated to all the silent visitors to this blog & to Pauline my business partner at Löveire Patisserie whereby we hold honesty as a very important key of doing business. Keep it up girl! 😉
Resolutions & Goals
To be honest, resolutions were never a big thing. Not that one found difficulty keeping them, but they often seemed a bit forced & only there since we were headed into a new year. However, goals are something we held as a dream to realize. Something set that we aimed for in the short, medium or long term. Something that we reviewed often & benchmarked ourselves against.
Candor & Honesty
Candor & honesty is neither really a resolution or a goal. It’s hard to describe, but probably the closest thing would best as a viewpoint or approach to life itself. In the extreme, enough of living in a sugar-coated world where we smile at each other but hold daggers behind our backs. Enough of pretending that everything is going nice & well even when he/she is deplorably bad.
Honesty brings about change. How can we know what to improve ourselves on if we don’t know the truth? How can we make the right decisions when the only picture we see is a pretty painted picture? How can we trust each other if honesty is not a reality?
Change is never easy, and often painful. Changing to be more honest or to to be a person with candor definitely falls into both. Expect people to resent you as your nice mild-mannered self becomes this perceived monster with a dagger for a tongue. Yet it is better that we tell someone if he/she sucks now, rather than he/she finding out when it’s way too late & turns into a bitter old person.
Balance even in Honesty
Yet as in almost everything, balance once comes again in the picture. Honesty needs to tempered by wisdom & timing. Honesty fails if the other party is not listening – simply walk away. Honesty fails in anger – as anger clouds the mine. It isn’t about being selectively honest, it’s about having a principle – a principle that brings about true success.
How important is honesty in our life?