A look at relationships partially ignited by an interesting conversation among 4 at a coffee shop
We all have wants… needs… desires. Through our beautiful glass beads, we each perceive the world translated via our senses & past memories. And for most of us, romantic love often gives way to the not wrong… nor lacking… but more practical realistic love. Yet our yearnings remain the same from financial security, to a sense of humor, to feeling loved.
Yet due to how we grow, both the male & female of this species communicate quite differently. By nature, most females tend to spend more time building relationships & generally more time talking & in social contact. Meanwhile males can bond over basketball or golf over the years yet can probably tape their entire lifetime conversation in half an hour of tape. No wonder communication between females & males are often so difficultly frustrating!
Is Love Measurable?
The key would be knowing how each individual is & responds. Of course the gender divide causes differences even in the simplest of things like showing love to each other. For example, most males would want to be loved (not meaning the verb although you could probably include that…) & be told/shown often that they are loved even though they may be so cool/macho about it. While for females, too much of that sappy stuff is usually a pain & gets boring – as women would much generally prefer fewer but more significant gifts/occasions that they can tell their friends about & keep telling to themselves again & again.
Being Best Friends
And back to communication, relationships can only really stand the test of time & arguments if one are best friends as well. It will take time to overcome the various small things that get annoying really fast but talking & listening remains the key. Love not only each other, but also many things together (yet do ensure you have your own space, interests & personal time)
Relationships & Time
Everything takes time to build & nurture. All relationships are like a banking account whereby you often need an initial investment, & after that regular savings are required together with all the withdrawals that you are making (whether intentionally or because you forgot the anniversary). Take your time to fall in love with both your eyes wide open. For love indeed is a many splendor thing.
What are some things women would like men to know (or vice-versa)?