Sex Once it Starts, is Not Supposed to End

Source: Carole Norris Greene, Associate Editor, Faith Alive!

Photo Credit: Making Love by ChenLiTao

It was a compelling delivery given by a youth pastor.

“Sex once it starts, is not supposed to end”, he stressed. It is meant to be ongoing in a committed relationship that has the potential of deepening over time precisely because it is sustained by the grace of God.

The teens expected him to say the last part, but he wasn’t going to let them tune him out.

He asked them: Have you ever wondered why some people go from one sexual partner to another, looking for the exhilaration of their first encounter? Not finding it, they cling to a sort of desperate hope that maybe tomorrow the right person will come into their lives.

But the emptiness is within and not the fault of another, he warned, because sexual activity with multiple partners diminishes one’s capacity to experience the wonder of genuine love.

If a sense of emptiness is the lot of the person who moves from one sexual partner to the next, hoping to find fulfillment, how much deeper will that emptiness be for the one whom another is merely an object of lust void of all dignity?

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6 thoughts on “Sex Once it Starts, is Not Supposed to End

  1. i don’t know about you but sex advice given by a religious leader, especially a Christian one, is quite…how do i put this (without taking things out of context)–

    inept. for reasons quite obvious in context.

    their (these christian figures) idea of cure for all sex problems is abstinence, generally speaking. from what you’re saying here, this pastor’s trying to say that those who sleep with many (indirectly saying that those who are liberal with their sexual approach) don’t know what they want, or to be more precise, don’t know how to find what they want.

    “how much deeper will that emptiness be for the one whom [to?] another is merely an object of lust void of all dignity?”

    well. in the case of being a sort of ‘fuck buddy’, prolly just as desperate as the one whom humps from one to the other; desperate for that sense of belonging. just not as self-assured to switch from lover to lover.

    if it’s a one nighter (ONS), dunno man, i think it really depends on the motivation and/or context.

    ultimately it depends on the specific reference point, from a sociological point of view.

  2. Steve, I agree totally with this line:

    But the emptiness is within and not the fault of another, he warned, because sexual activity with multiple partners diminishes one’s capacity to experience the wonder of genuine love.

    There are people who bounce from person to person looking for that rush that comes with beginnings. The thing that is important here is that you have to know and love yourself to be any good for anybody else.

    Religion and all the rest I have no use for, but I see the clear truth in this line. I guess because I was burned by such a person.

  3. @somebodicea: yeah. i think as well that the world could do with a little less prescriptions. Personal opinion though is that making love > recreation (romanticism?!)

    @sandy: thank you for sharing your experiences. i wondered a lil about the meaning of that part. knowing & loving yourself definitely is very important!

  4. maybe the other is just as promiscuous? :p so tats y no complains there? 😀
    haha… 😛

    wats wif this topic le? some1 needing some luving tonight eh? >:p

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